10 Keys To Help Your Child Be Happy In The Future

WHAT CAN YOU DO TODAY TO HELP YOUR CHILD BE HAPPIER IN THE FUTURE?

From here, I want to give you some advice that although they will not guarantee the happiness of your children in the future, it will provide them with a higher level of autonomy and self-esteem, which will undoubtedly result in a decrease in their chances of living with dissatisfaction. Here are the ten keys to help your child be happy in the future:

1. Do Not Try to Impose or Mold Your Child According to an Identity That You Have Designed for Them

It is very common, in that desire to give the best, to make a life for the children without consulting them. Your child is an individual in himself with his own identity. Imagine they wanted to put on a dancer's outfit for you to go out on the street: surely you wouldn't like it.

Think that the life you make for your daughter or son does not have to conform to its true essence. Be a guide, not a tamer.

2. Allow Your Child to Find Their Talents; Help Them Discover Their Vocation

Offer them the opportunity to experiment and play with what they like. Don't make them play the piano just because it is what you are passionate about or what you would have liked them to do.

When you find it, give your full support in achieving his/her dreams.

3. Transmit Solid Values to Your Child that Effectively Govern Their Lives

Doing this means not only being clear about your own values but living according to them: Remember that for your child, you’re a role model. It is of little use to tell a child that you have to respect people if they see you screaming or belittling someone for their ideology.

4. Avoid Excess Protectionism

Think of that hand behind the bike to prevent it from falling. This is how you should act: Stay close to give them confidence, but allow them to have some control.

If you permanently tell them what to do, he will always have a dependence to lead their life.

Offer them autonomy, pose challenges and responsibilities according to their age, so that they will acquire competence and a certain degree of independence.

5. Avoid Excess Tolerance

Give them confidence but not "wide sleeve." The balance is not so complicated, it consists of setting clear limits and that your child learns to respect them.

Your children will now and in the future live in society, and to be happy, he must be in balance within the norms established in the community in which they lived. Otherwise, frustration can be constant.

6. Learn to Communicate with Your Child

Your child does not have the same level of understanding or expression that you have, and that is why you have to give yourself the necessary resources to help them understand your point.

If you communicate using resources such as blackmail or threat, your child will adopt them as their own ways to communicate.

Ah! And take note of this: If you are dogmatic and trying to impose your truth, it will be difficult for you to understand your child's needs and concerns. She/he also has his reasons and motivations.

7. Learn to Manage Your Emotions and Teach Them to Understand Theirs

As I said at the beginning, emotional management is essential in personal development. Teach your child to understand their emotions and manage them effectively, which means, among other things, not to repress them and not to be ashamed of them.

If you do not feel competent, you can attend a workshop, consult one of the numerous books on the subject or even hire a specialized professional.

8. Balance Your Life to Foster a Balanced Life in Your Child

Children in the learning process unconsciously store a lot of information, some of which are never processed in a conscious way.

If their parents live in an unbalanced way, this can give a great impact on their life that can sometimes accompany them for many years. Be happy to make your children happy.

9. Spend Time

It seems obvious, but when we reach a certain age we can have the feeling that children no longer require so much attention. You will not be able to know their concerns if you do not spend time with them.

And spending time is not watching TV with them: It's about talking and playing. In short, interacting in a positive way with them.

10. Avoid Fear of Disappointment or Error

I explain myself: Do not pretend that your children are perfect or put them in the position of having to be. No one is happy at the need to do everything right.

To err is human, but it seems that accepting mistakes was not. If your child lives with the pressure of doing everything right according to your expectations, they will try to hide his mistakes and feel guilty for them.

Learn to accept that you will make mistakes, and also teach him/her to accept them. And this also applies to you as a father/mother: always act according to your values, and do not worry if you make mistakes in your role as an educator.

If you make a mistake let your child know even if their level of understanding is not enough; It will help you forgive yourself.